Prior to World War 2, Canada had one of the lowest divorce rates in the Western world. It was not until Pierre Elliot Trudeau was elected in 1968 that divorce laws were liberalized and divorce rates skyrocketed.
Today, divorce and the “freedom” that comes from being single is revered and deemed culturally acceptable.
Being happily married with 3 children myself, I have limited knowledge on the subject of divorce. I do have friends and acquaintances who are divorced.
Many have told me that their relationship with their former spouse was so toxic that it is like starting a new life after being divorced.
Others tell me that while they hated their spouse while they were married, after divorcing them, they were actually able to befriend them.
Some tell me that while married, their spouse lead them to believe “they could never survive on their own,” but after divorcing them, they proved them wrong.
Being happily married, I understand what it means to avoid getting divorced.
It means both partners need to make compromises in the relationship.
It means both partners need to respect the other partners individual character and needs.
It means both partners need to provide for one another’s needs, not just serve their own.
It means both partners need to be willing to forgive the other’s transgressions but make an effort not to habitually transgress them.
The relationship between Western Canada and Eastern Canada bears no resemblance to a happy marriage.
There are issues for which there is no compromise. The Edmonton based National Firearms Association rightly made an advertisement campaign to highlight how gun owners have always compromised while Eastern Canada based gun control freaks never do. Their agenda is the complete prohibition of all firearms in Canada.
Canada’s equalization system system does nothing to serve the interests of Western Canada. It does everything to serve Eastern Canada’s needs at the West’s expense.
Older generations of Westerners will never forgive Pierre Elliot Trudeau for the damage he did to their provinces. Justin Trudeau is well on his way establishing the same rapport with younger Westerners. It is well established that he blames Albertans for all of Canada’s problems and feels all of Canada belongs to Quebec.
Eastern Canada’s broad support for Justin Trudeau in the past election only highlights that Eastern Canada view Western Canada as their property, not their equal partner.
In essence, Eastern Canada is like an abusive husband who tells his wife he owns her, she is nothing without him, and she is incapable of surviving on her own. Adding salt to the wound, he expects her to go out and earn an income to feed his drug addiction (Eastern Canada is habitually addicted to debt), while he goes out and parties.
To stay in Canada is like telling women trapped in such relationships to just stick it out and stay with the abusive, exploitative loser.
It’s like telling such women that, once in a while, the deadbeat husband will see things her way and go easy on her (Eastern Canada did allow an Albertan Conservative to be Prime Minister for a little while).
It’s like saying the systematic and unavoidable toxicity in their relationship can just be papered over by meaningless, superficial gestures, and that she should just wait and hope he will change.
Eastern Canada never will change.
In the West, we have the legal right to file for divorce: Democratic referendums in each of our provinces that illustrate a clear majority of us want out of this unworkable marriage.
Divorcing the East is the only way for the West to gain it’s freedom. It might be the only way we will ever get along with the East.
As Justin Trudeau said when questioned about his cabinet selections, his response was “It’s 2015.”
In 2015 divorce is a normal part of our society.
It’s time for Western Canada to divorce the East.